Few months ago I wrote about the things I’d do a little differently if we were to move all over again. Let me just note that we are not planning on doing another big move. Again. Ever. OK I can’t say that for sure because we never know what the future holds, but we are not planning anything big any time soon.
I wrote about this app I found, Hey VINA! It’s a great concept. It’s just like those dating apps where the fate of your future is decided in a swipe right or left.
My husband and I met long before these dating apps came along so it’s like I get to experience it without the pressure of finding someone to spend a lot of time with and share secrets with and grow old with.
OH WAIT- that’s exactly what I am trying to do.
I am dating. I am dating to find a soul sister. Sister from another mister. Someone to drink beer-garitas with. Someone to sit on the couch with and ignore my kids with. And maybe her kids if she has them (I’m not picky). Someone to binge watch HGTV with. Is that too damn much to ask for!?
Disclaimer: I do have several of these types of friends in my life currently, so please don’t shed a ‘poor her, poor girl with no friends’ tear for me. The problem, I moved away from all of them. This is about finding a local partner in crime.
Alright, so back to my fri-dating (friend dating? I don’t know what else to call it), I spent some time agonizing over a profile picture – what side of me did I want to show!? A picture with my kids? No that would discourage the cool single ladies – desperate boring mom seeks someone other than family to spend time with – as long as I’m home by story time. So I went with the #shamelessselfie. I’m fun. I’m cool. I (still) know how to have a good time. That what a selfie says right?
Then I had to write about myself. Cleaver enough to catch someone’s attention and draw them in, but not overly sarcastic that people are confused. Not too desperate mom seeking adult interaction (though it’s the truth). Enough, I’m here to rave, but more, lets watch Netflix and eat cookie dough.
Then I started swiping. I try to surround myself with people who enjoy life and joke and like to have fun and be fun. So of course that’s what I look for when I am swiping.
Then I got a Ditto (match). I currently have about 5 or so. And a few of us have been going back and forth messaging each other through the app.
NO ONE (including myself) wants to make the first move! I feel like I need a success story. Is this what dating is like?
I just want to go back, and be like my 5 yo.
We meet at the park and we engage in a game of ‘don’t touch the ground’. We get along, you don’t push me, I don’t hit you. Together we approach our mom’s, I ask you what your name is because we’ve been too busy playing for such formalities. We ask for them to arrange a play date and don’t worry about the rest. Next thing I know, you show up at my house a few days later and we play with my legos and eat goldfish. Bam, instant friends.
THAT’S WHAT I WANT. MOM?!
Ugh. So here I sit. Phone in hand, 5 dittos and no one wants to make the first move.
I want to hear from you – how do you make friends when you move to a new place? I need your advice!